Asked: How do you cope after ending a long-term relationship?

My boyfriend of 2 years and I broke up on Tuesday. We were in a long-distance relationship the entire time. We saw each other every 3 months, sometimes more, sometimes less. He is also a bit older than I am. Some would say that isn't a relationship, but we talked every day for most of the day.

I am just having a really hard time coping with this. I don't want to move on and I just want to find a way to get him back. His reason for ending it was "our parents and friends won't approve and its best to just stop now." This statement is true as our age difference (10 years) would alarm some. His mother also wants him to marry an Asian woman as he is Asian and I am not. I just feel like even though their approval matters, they can also come to accept our relationship, no?

He told me he wants to be friends. I feel this is a statement said to just ease the pain, but I think he does mean it maybe. After we broke up on Tuesday, he texted me Wednesday night and we talked and actually even called me, but I had asked him to do that.

My friends have all told me the same thing. It takes time, but you will move on slowly and be okay. But I don't want to move on. Is this normal?

How can I win him over again? I don't want to beg and plead..that just sounds desperate. I am just so unhappy and can't deal with feeling this emptiness. I lost my best friend and boyfriend at the same time.

Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you


girl you need to get some chocolate, buy a sad movie, and cry! let it all out! i know it sounds silly but it helps because its not all bottled inside of you! secondly, get a job, if you have a job, get some more hours! keep busy so you don't think about him, best of luck! xo

I'm also in a long distance relationship, but what it all starts from is just being YOU!

If the dude said just be friends, then just work with it, go with the flow, it's a hidden quality that shows your understanding, so be casual, be yourself,
make jokes and all that in convo's, just dont get all lovey dovey again just yet, and the parents to come to terms as long as you two are sure of yourselves, but it all starts by being you, and dont always be on his case, go out, keep yourself busy, get your mind off things, k hope I helped, cheers, best of luck

Its gonna be hard. Im not gonna lie to you its not easy. ussually people cope by getting with someone new right away (please dont). a rebound is definently not an appropriate outlet. accept his request to be friends its not always a way to ease the hurt sometimes (especially if you were friends before your relationship) they mean it. be his friend DO NOT ACT SHY. be just as open as you were in the relatioship or else yall will become awkward and it will slow the process if you want him back be his friend and maybe if its meant to be he will come back for you. If he doesnt im just gonna be blunt here, you WILL get over him everyone has a match so dont stress it if you dont find him right away. you will find him someday. hope this helped best of luck to you both :)

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